The Gift of Two Homes

Looking for some advice on helping my almost three-year-old daughter to transition to having two homes. She and I are still living in the house where she was born and her dad lives in an apartment nearby. My daughter is having a hard time understanding that he doesn’t live here anymore.

The more time she spend with you – separately – the sooner she’ll begin to see you as separate. I’d encourage – to the extent possible – that dad make her living space with him as full as possible… familiar colors and toys (not necessarily duplicates). Allow her to leave some of her favorite things at dad’s house… during dad’s parenting time, she can go visit the toys!f She may want both parents in the same home.. until she realizes that she gets two bedrooms, two birthdays and two Christmases.